Money touches every part of a relationship — from who pays the bills to who feels free to spend, to how faith, privilege, and even family expectations shape the way we see our financial roles. But for many couples, these conversations stay on the surface — focused on budgets or account balances — instead of the deeper emotions and power dynamics underneath.
My guests today, Heather and Douglas Boneparth, set out to change that. They’re the husband-and-wife duo behind the new book Money Together, a guide that goes beyond financial planning to explore the real forces that drive how couples handle money — things like caregiving, identity, gender, faith, and generational wealth.
Heather is a corporate attorney turned author and financial advocate; Douglas is a certified financial planner and founder of Bonafide Wealth. Together, they spent years interviewing more than 60 couples and experts to unpack what really happens behind closed doors when money meets love.
In our conversation, we talk about what they discovered — why traditional money advice often fails couples, how gender roles and caregiving reshape financial power, how to talk about privilege or family wealth without resentment, and why sometimes the healthiest financial decision is saying “no” to money that comes with strings attached.
